The Push and Pull of Receiving
Does anybody else find it easier to give than to receive? Or do you find yourself always giving a bit more? I do. This week I’ve been writing a chapter in my book on self esteem. Usually when I write I’ll get some kind of a lesson come up for me. I was a bit nervous about this chapter because I had a feeling there would be a lesson to consider…. and of course there was. I have many balanced friendships. Many of which started in childhood. Somehow though I always seem to attract the occasional friend who will want me to fix their life, or will expect me to be there emotionally for them, but when I express my feelings they are not important. Usually the subject is changed back to the other persons life, or I’m just ignored completely. If I mention that I’m feeling hurt by something in the friendship, I’m met with a lot of anger, and no acknowledgement about how I’m feeling.
Where as if they talk about their emotions, I’m there validating them all the way. Cheering them on. Its called a lop sided friendship, and I believe it comes down to my self esteem. This type of person is attracted to me because they know I’m a giver. I’m attracted to them because I’m happy to give to someone who needs help. Most often not expecting anything in return. The thing is. Life needs to be a balance of giving and receiving. From a young age I thought it was my job to look after others even though I was a child. My needs were never considered important. But I’m an adult now. It’s time to let that rubbish go and realise that my feelings are actually important too.
So this day I’m saying good bye to lopsided relationships of any kind, without feeling guilty. I’m finding my bliss by spending my time with the people and situations that make me happy. I’m being good to myself, and enjoying life. It feels like freedom. Have a wonderful day xo